New Weekly Topic: Creating Attraction with Women

It was a Thursday night, the last night of our weeklong trip to Los Angeles to get familiar with various areas and neighborhoods in order to see where we wanted to live. We were at the Bodega Wine Bar in Santa Monica, recapping the week and generally getting ourselves excited for our move out West.

For those who’ve never been, the Bodega Wine Bar carries itself with a confidence that lacks arrogance. Its design is relaxed, but stylish, combining sleek lines with natural textures and a red glow that rests onto the street in front of its entrance. It’s the kind of bar where you meet a new friend or girlfriend, not because people are seeking it out, but because those are the kinds of people that would be there - people you’d want to spend time with.

She wasn’t particularly stand-out attractive, but she was cute. Her figure certainly wasn’t that of the stereotypical LA model/actress, but she wasn’t overweight. She wasn’t dressed well, but was relaxed in her jeans and t-shirt.

Anyone would have sized her up as an average girl. But, on this night, out of all of the beautiful women in this bar, I found her the most attractive.

She had truthful eyes and the kind of smile that you couldn’t help but return. Her posture was firm, not rigid, and captured the essence of comfort. She commanded a presence at the table among her friends and was animated, just enough to be captivating, when she spoke.

I leaned in to my friend to speak over the music, pointed out the girl and said:

“There’s nothing particularly stand-out attractive about her, but I can’t help but be attracted to her.

The problem is, I’ll never speak to her.”

Creating Attraction: Defying Conventional Wisdom

Just like when you take up a new sport or skill, you will observe a master in awe of their talent. Their abilities seem unreal, yet you know it to be possible; and with that end in sight, you begin your journey to discover what you don’t know that you don’t know.

That night, I was almost finished reading about Neil Strauss’s journey from awkward virgin to one of the most successful pickup artists in the world. In reading The Game, I realized that a new reality had been presented before me which rejected conventional wisdom: increasing the chances of a girl being attracted to you can be learned.

Despite several long-term relationships, for me, something was missing. I told my friend that truly understanding women (as much as possible) was a part of my life that I wanted to get under control.

I leaned back toward my friend and said:

“I don’t want to sleep with a lot of women, that’s not my goal. What I want is the choice to be with the kind of woman that I want to be with.

And I’m going to figure it out.”

Attraction is Not a Choice

And that’s the story of how it started for me.

It’s been a long and intense journey that will never be over or complete. While I certainly do not claim to be an expert in creating attraction, I’ve learned a tremendous amount along the way. It is information about how to create attraction and understanding women that I want to share with you to help you gain more control and success in this important part of your life.

To answer any questions about studying different methods such as David DeAngelo, The Mystery Method, Ross Jeffries/NLP, Neil Strauss, etc, I leave you with this quote by the great Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it. The man who knows how will always have a job. The man who also knows why will always be his boss.

As to methods there may be a million and then some, but principles are few. The man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods, ignoring principles, is sure to have trouble.”

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